SZN. 4 Ep. 4/ The Gratitude Trap: When Forced Thankfulness Backfires

Gratitude is widely promoted as a tool for mental health, but Alexandria Gohla, MSW, LCSW, Ed.S, explains that forced gratitude can backfire, creating guilt and invalidating real emotions—a phenomenon often called the gratitude trap or toxic positivity. Research shows that gratitude is most effective when practiced authentically alongside acknowledgment of pain. Strategies for authentic gratitude include allowing mixed emotions, focusing on small genuine moments, using “both/and” language, journaling with curiosity instead of obligation, and sharing gratitude outwardly. By embracing both joy and pain, you can cultivate resilience and emotional well-being without silencing your true feelings.